By: Stacey Lynn
The hookup culture dominates most of the lives of college students. Some people spend hours agonizing over whether or not they’ll score (I’m not talking about the Blackhawks) on the weekend and, later, they spend even more time dissecting the evenings’ successes or failures.
A new book entitled The End of Sex: How Hookup Culture is Leaving a Generation Unhappy, Sexually Unfulfilled, and Confused About Intimacy examines college student’s social life on campus. What’s cool about the End of Sex, is that author Donna Freitas draws on her own extensive research to reveal what men and women really want when it comes to sex and romance. I’m big on research. Freitas surveyed over two-thousand college students and conducted extensive one-on-one interviews at Catholic, and secular schools. Freitas discovered that almost half of the students, both men and women alike are unhappy with casual sex. Meaningless hookups have led them to associate sexuality with ambivalence, boredom, isolation, and loneliness, yet they tend to accept hooking up as an unavoidable part of college life. In the book Freitas argues that, until students realize that there are many avenues that lead to sex and long-term relationships, the vast majority will continue to miss out on the romance, intimacy, and satisfying sex they deserve, which is something that I am not cool with. But I think there’s something else to consider here… if we don’t know what we want, then how will we know where or even how to find it?
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